Leader’s Message – “Love Your Society 365 Days a Year” – February 2011

When I was a young child, I received a small box filled with colored envelopes and was delighted because now, every Sunday, I could put my coins in one of them, seal it and place it in the collection basket alongside my parents’ envelope and those of all the other members of St. Anne’s Roman Catholic Church. Now I, too, was making a contribution. It was a proud moment.

I come from a generation that grew up in congregations. Our families and friends were identified by which church or temple they attended. A “mixed” marriage like my parents’ often involved people from Catholic and Protestant backgrounds, and some compromise had to be reached with regard to the children. I remember telling a third grade classmate that she would not go to heaven because she was a Protestant. That was not a proud moment.

Although my mother would have liked to keep me home, I left to attend college and then traveled even farther to study in Europe. I sought out and embraced people from different faith traditions, loving what I learned from them, eager to make a new home with them. And I did so when I joined the Brooklyn Society for Ethical Culture. It didn’t feel like a compromise to raise our children there. My husband Glenn, who was raised in an orthodox synagogue, and I brought our commitment to community with us, transplanting it into a new garden.

We recalled our respective childhoods in the aftermath of a blizzard when, after we had cleared our stoop and sidewalk, we loaded the kids and shovels onto a sled and headed over to the Society a few blocks away to help the caretaker with his task. We were proud of our children digging in to clear the snow off the steps. That’s what we did as children: joined our parents to dig into the work of our congregations. It was hard work – and lots of fun. We did it because these places were our spiritual homes.

As I meet people in our monthly Newcomer Receptions, especially the younger people whom we hope to attract to our community, I realize that they did not grow up as I did. Many of their families did not give them a legacy of loving commitment to congregation. Perhaps they were even wounded by traditional faith communities. They are “shopping,” looking for a place where they can feel comfortable, comparing our Society to other groups. I sometimes feel that we are on display and must put on a good show. It can feel unsettling. “I understand that you are exploring,” I say. “Perhaps you are on a spiritual journey that has brought you here. I hope you can make a home with us.” I try to describe that home as I experience it and invite them to live with us, knowing that their needs will not be the same as mine, trying to fathom what their needs are, and hoping they will choose to make a commitment to Ethical Culture.

As I work with the Pledge Committee to follow up on last year’s membership donations and plan the next pledge campaign, I observe a kind of commitment demonstrated by some of our members that concerns me. For many, NYSEC is no different than any other organization to which they belong or charity to which they give. It does not seem to be as special, as essential, to them as it is to me, and I wonder why that is. Have their needs not been met here? Have they not made good friends? Has this not become a home for them? As I call people, I ask these questions and listen closely to their answers.

These conversations have renewed my commitment to serving this congregation. One way is to clarify the expectations of financial pledging. Long gone are the days when founder Felix Adler assembled the wealthy men of the society, presented them with a worthy project, and walked out of his office, knowing that, when he returned, his desk would be covered with checks. That is a legacy that we must overcome and pitch in, every one of us, to do our part. The pledge campaign for 2011 is called “Love Your Society 365 Days a Year,” and a party will be held on Saturday, February 12, from 5 to 8 PM to initiate a minimum yearly pledge of $365 and a goal of two percent of net income. Please join me for the hard work – and the fun – of ethical commitment.

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One Response to “Leader’s Message – “Love Your Society 365 Days a Year” – February 2011”

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